Learning the skills for effective communication is like finding a great dance groove

On Thursday, May 15 the California Supreme Court struck down the ban on gay marriages. The court said sexual orientation

did not constitute a legitimate basis upon which to deny or withhold rights.

This makes the country’s most populous state the second in the nation to allow marriage for us, following Massachusetts. Congratulations to all those Californian couples, especially the throng of San Francisco couples who tied the knot way back under Mr. Gavin Newsome. Remember that story?

As California goes, so goes the rest of the nation. It’s inevitable. This door’s wide open now. It’s going to happen, whether you like it or not. Newsome said

Now, if only that were true for here in Florida, where they actually have a constitutional amendment on the ballot this November to make any legal set up even looking like marriage illegal. It’s not enough to not let us marry, apparently. And Floridians tend to like their constitutional amendments, I’m afraid.

A case of “one step forward; two back”? It certainly means placements on the US Supreme Court are even MORE important from this next election.

But here’s to hoping Gavin Newsome is right!
“It’s going to happen, whether you like it or not.”

Found a great post at GayTwoGether on relationship boundaries.

I really like the circle exercise. Where do you find yourself in your current relationship or where do you tend to go when you are in a relationship? Do you have boundaries? Where are they? Have you talked about them? The post offers some good tips on boundary setting.

Try to identify where your struggles with boundaries originate and keep track of what triggers your self-sabotaging behavior. Work aggressively at overcoming these personal hurdles to promote a more solid and confident sense of self.

Some Sisters have an easier time with boundaries, though each one can take the interaction types to the extreme to break these boundaries. Gina can become so enmeshed she doesn’t know where she ends and her partner begins. Katie can become so independent she can’t let anyone in. Tina can take charge so much she forgets to consider others. Stacey can become so enthralled by the attention she can forget about her social limits.

Being in the Groove means understanding your boundaries and maintaining them, because we all know good fences make good neighbors.