Learning the skills for effective communication is like finding a great dance groove

A Place for Everything in Gay Relationships

I’ve spent some time ‘housekeeping’ here and tidying up a few things.

The About page is now What is This? From that page you can find The Dance Floor link, which shows the Sisters’ Grid for Gay relationships.

On The Dance Floor page, you’ll find these links:

And links to definitions of the Sisters in Gay Relationshps.

Of course, you can find more detailed information about each of these topics over at The Four Sisters Groove web site.

Golden Girls and The Four Sisters Groove

Estelle Getty known as Sophia Petrillo on The Golden Girls died this week.

The Golden Girls was another show clearly representing The Four Sisters. Can you identify them from their personalities on the show?

Blanche = Stacey
Dorothy = Katie
Rose = Gina

And of course, Sophia was an excellent representation of Tina. Detail oriented (who can forget: “Picture it” a clear Tina command), outgoing and Sashay Right, nothing stood in her way to get what she wanted. Estelle made Sophia into a Tina we won’t soon forget. Friday, July 25th would have been her 85th birthday:

LIFETIME TELEVISION PAYS TRIBUTE TO GOLDEN GIRL ESTELLE GETTY WITH 10 SPECIAL EPISODES OF THE POPULAR SERIES,
FRIDAY, JULY 25 FROM 12-5PM (ET/PT)

FANS CAN VOTE AT MYLIFETIME.COM FOR FAVORITE “SOPHIA” EPISODE

NEW YORK – This Friday, July 25, Lifetime Television will pay a special on-air and online tribute to Estelle Getty, who played the cantankerous “Sophia Petrillo” on the iconic comedy series “The Golden Girls.” Ms. Getty passed away today at her home in Los Angeles at the age of 84.

From 12-5PM (ET/PT), Lifetime will air 10 episodes showcasing “Sophia” in all her blustering, sarcastic splendor, beginning with the show’s pilot. The last episode at 4:30PM (ET/PT) will be the #1 favorite “Sophia episode” as decided through a vote of her legion of devoted fans at myLifetime.com.

“The Golden Girls” premiered on Lifetime in 1997. The series airs weekdays from 9-10AM, 4-5PM and 1-2AM, all ET/PT.

On the Road Again

Like a lot of folks, I took some vacation time in July, and it reminded me of the Vacation movie with the Griswolds (A clear use of the Four Sisters with the four main characters) and also of my own past vacation experiences.

As a younger Gina, I would frustrate my Tina boyfriend by claiming I lived life “by the seat of my pants.” Gina, having a strong Prink aversion, ran from most anything smelling of structure. Clearly, life was meant to be a string of random events, not a structured progression from Point A to Point B.

The differences in our Prink views would really come to a point during vacations. Tina, being able to take Prink to the extreme, would create a spreadsheet delineating each day’s events, including travel distances, hotel expenses, entertainment, and how often to breathe.

Okay, the breathing part was an exaggeration. However, to Gina, making these arrangements can feel like a pin instead of a plan. Why can’t we just see where the open road takes us? Travel the back roads and experience life!
If either of the Sisters takes the Prink views to the extreme, conflict can happen. Of course, a compromise has to be reached, but there is also the option of creating space for each Sister to exercise the strength of her Prink view.

Yes, Gina, vacations do take planning. There is the location, the airfare, the car rental, the hotels, the spots to see, and even the bars to hit! So, Tina’s strengths can be put to good use beforehand, keeping in mind Gina’s Prink aversion, Tina can help guide the details without overloading Gina. While Gina, can input creative ideas for entertainment or use time for “the seat of the pants” traveling.

As long as both Sisters can take this view on vacations, the experience can be a rewarding opportunity to grow closer and learn how to build a relationship through the strength of differences.