I went out to the local gay resort for the “Sunday Tea Dance,” and as I watched a lot of the folks interact (yeah, I’m kinda silly that way), I decided I need to review the Four Sisters Groove Sashay Scale. In a setting like a tea dance, you really can’t miss Sashay.
The Four Sisters Groove dance floor is divided into quadrants. Sashay Scale divides the dance floor horizontally, so Sisters will Sashay Left or Sashay Right. When you take the time to watch and listen to people, you really can pick up on a Sisters’ Sashay Scale pretty easily. Of course, the Crunks we’ve talked about before and the cues they provide with body language, posture, voice, word choices, and gestures can all tip you off to a Sisters’ Sashay Scale for effective communication skills.
Now remember, the Sashay Scale depends on the response each Sister gives to the current environment. Training and education and personal growth patterns can all have a part in determining this Sashay Scale. Granted, genetics will also play a role in establishing a Sisters’ Sashay Scale, too. So, environmental patterns combine with your heredity to create a unique Sashay. No two Sashay’s will be exactly alike. However, consistent patterns are established for either the Sashay Left or Sashay Right.
Or another way to look at it: Sashay reflects your interactions with other people. What kind of assertiveness do others have over you? How much can others influence you? How much pressure do you require before acting or deciding? Do you gain strength from being around others or does it drain your energy?
Depending on how you answered questions when you Find Your Spot on the Dance Floor, (you did Find Your Spot, didn’t you?) you either Sashay Left or Sashay Right. Sashay divides the Sisters Dance Floor horizontally. Your score when you Find Your Spot will place you on the left or right side of the scale.
Sashay Right
Let’s deal with Sashay Right first since those are the ones who think they’re most important. Of course, everyone knows it, right? But when it comes down to it, the Sashay is not about what other people think about you. It’s about personal energy. What feelings of energy do you experience in an interaction?
Sisters Sashaying Right tend to not be readily influence by others, and these Sisters tend to be less yielding in decisions and purpose. They are the ones who love to be in the middle of a crowd and gain energy levels when they are. In fact, not being in a crowd can be draining for these Sisters. They like to drive and push for things, and sometimes they can push too hard. This assertiveness can even be to the point of harm to those who stand in the way, thus right Sashaying Sisters must watch to make sure this strength doesn’t become a weakness. Tina and Stacey are the Sisters who Sashay Right.
Sashay Left
Sisters Sashaying left tend to yield more to people; in relationships, these Sisters don’t like to assert themselves. Though, they can have a good time in a crowd, these Sisters tend to gain more energy by having alone time, and these Sisters find it much easier to relinquish then to push back. More easily influenced, the left Sashaying Sisters must learn to express themselves unless this strength becomes a weakness.
Generally, Sashaying Left Sisters will state opinion only when they deem it necessary, and they tend to give it very carefully. During conversations, they may find themselves standing away from people, and if they want you to do something, they tend to exert very little pressure for action. Gestures, voice fluctuations, and talking speed are generally reserved also. Katie and Gina are the Sashay Left Sisters.
So, next time you are out in a group setting for gay relationships, see if you can make out Sashay for effective communication. You really can’t miss her.
