The shortest distance between two points is a straight line, but since these are gay relationships we're talking about, does straight really cut it? Well, it depends.
It depends on where you and your partner are in the Sisters Grid. The Sisters' Dance Cards help you bring it all together with tangible steps you can take to open communication. By taking steps in the direction of your partner's Sister, you'll begin to notice changes in your relationship. That's how you get into the groove.
First, your Sister will be your starting point. Then, your partners' Sister will be your goal. Now, don't worry about actually getting to that Sister. That's not the goal of the Groove. The goal is to learn the steps to groove together. Your Sisters' Quiz number will help you see which direction you'll find the easiest to take, which will help you ease into the steps.
Let's follow an example: The Sisters' Quiz puts Gina in the lower left quadrant. This Gina has Tina as a partner. To Groove to Tina, Gina would have to Sashay Right and Prink Up. This is how it looks:
Can you see the groove? Gina is in the left lower quadrant; Tina is in the right upper quadrant. To go that direction, Gina needs to Sashay Right or Prink Up. Gina may find it easier to Sashay right first and then Prink Up, depending on what she feels most comfortable trying.
Finding Three Groove Steps
So, what three steps can Gina write down as actions to take? Since her quiz shows she's higher on the Sashay Scale and lower on the Prink Placement, she would probably feel most comfortable Sashaying. She knows Sashaying right means having opinions and voicing them. So, Gina would write: I will voice my opinion clearly and directly without having to be asked.
Gina also knows Sashaying can mean speaking quickly and loudly, maybe being even a bit too loud. She doesn't necessarily have to be too loud, but she does know she could speak up and talk a little bit faster. Then Step 2 is written as: I will speak up and speed up my conversations with Tina.
Now for the last step, Gina needs to do something physical. She knows Sashay means stepping out, leaning into, gesturing towards, and generally moving her body into another person. So her third step would be: I will lean towards Tina when I'm talking to her.
Gina's three Groove steps would look like this:
| Step | Action |
| 1 | I will voice my opinion clearly and directly without having to be asked. |
| 2 | I will speak up and speed up my conversations with Tina. |
| 3 | I will lean towards Tina when I'm talking to her. |