Miss Steps and Her Entourage in Gay Relationships
Over at Broken Cupid there’s a post on a classic communication misstep, and the valuable lesson learned about eye contact. The story reminds us of both the link between the appearance of self-confidence and the use of simple communication cues.
My greatest lesson along these lines happened at work when an ex-military coworker called me out on my lack of eye contact. He helped me understand the importance of keeping and holding eye contact, and how it can have a positive impact on how I was interpreted, heard, and even liked.
There is also an underlying issue with these lessons, too. I had the major hots for this co-worker, and my reaction to these feelings was to hide them away. I thought that not looking at him meant, he wouldn’t see what I was feeling. This swirl of emotions can also occur during introductions as the Broken Cupid post describes.
These are the classic missteps of a Sashay Left. The interpretation of the emotional intensity in these situations causes Sashay Left to pull back. However, those who Sashay Right don’t always understand the reasons behind these actions, since Sashay Right doesn’t have any problem making and keeping intense eye contact.
So the Cha Cha Cha for these situations calls for both Sashay Left and Sashay Right to watch their steps. Sashay Left must push past her comfort zone to make sure she’s not misunderstood, and Sashay Right has to not misinterpret the lack of eye contact as something personal.
By making a few adjustments to the way we do things, we’ll sidestep Miss Steps and her Entourage.
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